In response to the FPN post last week regarding the Stamford Marriott rape, where the hotel claimed that the woman who was raped in their garage, “failed to exercise due care for her own safety and the safety of her children and proper use of her senses and facilities,” several readers wrote to Marriott to express their horror at the hotel chain’s victim-blaming handling of what happened, and in response got the following letter from Marriott,

Dear Valued Guest,

Thank you for contacting Marriott.

We wish to convey our respect and sympathy for Ms. Doe and her family, who were the victims of a horrendous crime in 2006.

Marriott is profoundly sorry that such a terrible thing happened to the victim of this violent crime. And unfortunately this situation has created a mistaken impression that Marriott lacks respect and concern for Ms. Doe or other victims of violent crime.

However, out of respect for the privacy of the victim and the expectations of the Court in the pending litigation, we are not at liberty to comment on the claims or defenses in this case.

Regards,
Marriott Customer Care

According to the Stamford Advocate, after the woman sued the hotel, they,

“subpoenaed several people involved with the family, including a Pilates instructor, friends, tennis partners and the children’s baby sitter. The woman’s attorneys argue the individuals subpoenaed do not know anything about the attack, that the subpoenas inadvertently identified her to those people and that it was merely an effort by the hotel’s attorneys to intimidate her.”

Which begs the question of how they could claim now to be respecting the privacy of the victim.  More appallingly, it is disingenuous to refer to it as a “horrendous” and “violent” crime, but never once call it out for what it is–rape.



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Aug 142009
 

CBS’ 48 Hours has a chilling report on a video of a class on how older men can successfully date younger women taught by R. Don Steele, which was attended attended by George Sodini who murdered 3 women and wounded 9 more in a Pennsylvania health club:

In the tape, Steele tells a group of men to get over their fears of approaching women and to stop being such nice guys all the time, claiming the “nice guy must die.”

At no point in the video does Steele talk about violence against women and there is no evidence to suggest Steele had any contact with Sodini other than as one of many students who attended the class.

Steele does pontificate on what to do when you encounter a woman who “thinks she’s hot (expletive) and everyone is kissing her (expletive) trying to go out with her.” The secret is to insult her shoes.

To say this is twisted would be an understatement, as CBS eloquently reports:

In an eerie moment on the tape, Steele tells his acolytes, “Your job is to make yourself memorable. Make her remember your name.”

Heidi Overmier, 46, of Carnegie, Jody Billingsley, 37, of Mount Lebanon, and Elizabeth Gannon, 49, of Pittsburgh, all gunned down in their prime.

Those are the names to remember.

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While Secretary of State Hillary Clinton talked about the rights of women in Africa, Shia women in Afghanistan have now legally become nothing more than sex slaves.  Where is the outcry from the American government, or would that  not be in our best interests?

This law is a gross violation of human rights and the international community and especially the United States which put the Karzai government in place should demand it’s immediate repeal.  As this makes painfully clear, the notion that the U.S. would liberate Afghan women was and is a terrible lie. That their lives are considered nothing more than pawns in the power struggle to control Afghanistan is truly a failing of American foreign policy and all that is decent.

Via Human Rights Watch:

Afghanistan’s influential international supporters should insist that President Hamid Karzai act to amend the notorious law that formalizes discrimination against Shia women, Human Rights Watch said today.

Human Rights Watch learned today that the amended bill was published in the official Gazette on July 27, 2009 (Gazette 988), bringing the law into force.

“Karzai has made an unthinkable deal to sell Afghan women out in return for the support of fundamentalists in the August 20 election,” said Brad Adams, Asia director at Human Rights Watch. “So much for any credentials he claimed as a moderate on women’s issues.”

A copy of the final law seen by Human Rights Watch shows that many regressive articles remain, which strip away women’s rights that are enshrined in Afghanistan’s constitution. The law gives a husband the right to withdraw basic maintenance from his wife, including food, if she refuses to obey his sexual demands. It grants guardianship of children exclusively to their fathers and grandfathers. It requires women to get permission from their husbands to work. It also effectively allows a rapist to avoid prosecution by paying “blood money” to a girl who was injured when he raped her.

“The rights of Afghan women are being ripped up by powerful men who are using women as pawns in maneuvers to gain power,” said Adams. “These kinds of barbaric laws were supposed to have been relegated to the past with the overthrow of the Taliban in 2001, yet Karzai has revived them and given them his official stamp of approval.”

Karzai signed the Shia Personal Status Law in March, prompting a national and international storm of protest. The law regulates the personal affairs of Shia Muslims – who make up between 10 and 20 percent of the population – including divorce, separation, inheritance, and the minimum age for marriage. The initial version of the law included articles that imposed drastic restrictions on Shia women, including a requirement to ask permission to leave the house except on urgent business, and a requirement that a wife have sex with her husband at least once every four days.

The law was designed in secret by a powerful and hard-line Shia leader, Ayatollah Asif Mohseni, and supported by conservative Shia leaders in parliament. Many women activists have accused Karzai of abandoning his previous moderate views on women’s rights to help him secure votes in the presidential election.

In a rare move, Afghan women took to the streets in April to protest, braving threats and violence. President Barack Obama of the United States, Prime Minister Stephen Harper of Canada, Prime Minister Gordon Brown of the United Kingdom, the NATO secretary general, Jaap de Hoop Scheffer, and many other world leaders condemned the legislation. As a result of pressure, Karzai submitted the law to a consultation process with civil society groups in May, which resulted in some improvements. The legislation still contains some of its most repressive measures, though.

Human Rights Watch said that the law directly contravenes rights provided under the Afghan constitution, which bans any kind of discrimination and distinction between citizens of Afghanistan. Article 22 states that men and women “have equal rights and duties before the law.” The law also contravenes the Convention on the Elimination of All Forms of Discrimination against Women, to which Afghanistan is a party.

“Afghanistan’s parliament should overturn this law, and its constitutional court should throw out provisions that violate the constitution and its international legal obligations,” Adams said. “And the other presidential candidates should promise Afghan women that, if elected, they will make it a priority to amend or repeal this abhorrent law.”

And speaking of CEDAW, isn’t it time once and for all that the U.S. ratify this convention, which has already been ratified by more than 90% of the member countries of the U.N.?

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Aug 142009
 

Vivirlatino has a brilliant piece by La Macha deconstructing how nationalism trumps violence against women when it comes to reporting on violence against women in immigrant communities.  She writes,

(T)his is what happens when people (more than likely men, although the author of that article was a woman), decide that “citizenship” and “questions of citizenship” are more important than understanding and dealing with violence against women. The women who are violated are completely erased from the story or become little more than the vessels that carry the more important story of “how are we going to catch us some alienz?”

Point taken and it is valid not only within our borders but also in our foreign policy.  Time and time again it has been made all too clear that the lives of Afghan and Iraqi women as well as women in our own military count far less than our perceived national interest.  Please read the entire piece, it is a chilling tale.

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According to the Stamford Advocate,

A downtown hotel being sued by a woman raped at gunpoint in its parking garage is claiming she was careless, negligent and “failed to exercise due care for her own safety and the safety of her children and proper use of her senses and facilities,” according to court documents.

They are blaming the victim for her own rape and lack of adequate security in their garage??  Are they suggesting she was mentally incapable because she did not anticipate being raped while she was putting her child in a carseat??  Jezebel has the full story here.

I frequently stay at Marriott hotels when I travel, but I will not be doing so until they issue an apology and offer a substantive plan for assuring the safety of all and all customers and particularly women and children, and I urge others to do the same.  You can also write to them here.

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